Have you ever changed an outfit because you think that it’s not the “right” one for an event? Take a moment to consider why you did that. Was it the anticipation of what others would think? If so, you just decided to try and think for others.
Any time in our lives we find ourselves changing our behavior in order to please someone else, we have usually in that moment decided to take on the burden of thinking for them. We have already come up with what opinion they will have and then what behavior they will act it out in. So in fear we change our own action without there ever being an actual threat. Our own fear has now changed how we view the world around us and the people we interact with.
This can be really tiring and kind of insulting to the other person. Allow them to think, feel, act for themselves. Usually we haven’t given them enough credit. Remember, we are only the center of our own universe. Other people are focused on themselves, not us. So let go of the weight of trying to predetermine what others will do.
The only opinion that is any of your business is your own! And this is because that is the only one that you actually have any direct impact on. So work on changing how you view yourself and be amazed how those around you respond. Release the obligation of determine what others think and take the energy to open up yourself!